The good news is that Becky's back is ok, however she left me for someone else a few months ago - so hasn't been on the forums. I don't think she'll be back online, unfortunately, as she's taken quite a change of direction in her life.
It can be painful if something happens out of the blue and if that is not the case it can still be difficult but time will heal.
I lost my Wife, best friend and soul mate of 31 years to Cancer many years ago but I stuck at it and luckily love found me again and we have been married now for ten years. So whatever your circumstances there will be someone out there looking for you when you are ready to be receptive.